Is there a form of being gender-questioning where you don't identify with much of being male (and many labs and health conditions lean me towards female biology), but I don't feel feminine either, and know I would not pass if I did embrace that
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Is there a form of being gender-questioning where you don't identify with much of being male (and many labs and health conditions lean me towards female biology), but I don't feel feminine either, and know I would not pass if I did embrace that?
I don't think I'm describing non-binary. It's like there is a third choice without all that follows identifying as non-binary. Or just maybe what I am identifying with *is* non-binary, and "if you met one non-binary person, you met one non-binary person" to reuse a neurodivergence phrase.
I do know I identify as gay/queer, regardless how the above shakes out.
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Is there a form of being gender-questioning where you don't identify with much of being male (and many labs and health conditions lean me towards female biology), but I don't feel feminine either, and know I would not pass if I did embrace that?
I don't think I'm describing non-binary. It's like there is a third choice without all that follows identifying as non-binary. Or just maybe what I am identifying with *is* non-binary, and "if you met one non-binary person, you met one non-binary person" to reuse a neurodivergence phrase.
I do know I identify as gay/queer, regardless how the above shakes out.
@AncTreat5358@mindly.social There is agender, genderqueer, androgyne, and a variety of other gender names you can explore - see the non-binary wiki. It’s important to remember that these names/categories exist to try to communicate our internal experience of gender - they should not be prescriptive. Language is simply the best means we have to try to communicate personal experiences, and your identity should not be limited by it.
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Is there a form of being gender-questioning where you don't identify with much of being male (and many labs and health conditions lean me towards female biology), but I don't feel feminine either, and know I would not pass if I did embrace that?
I don't think I'm describing non-binary. It's like there is a third choice without all that follows identifying as non-binary. Or just maybe what I am identifying with *is* non-binary, and "if you met one non-binary person, you met one non-binary person" to reuse a neurodivergence phrase.
I do know I identify as gay/queer, regardless how the above shakes out.
@AncTreat5358 I feel similar and call myself genderqueer, because it feels like non-binary doesn't quite fit. You can try out different names, see if they fit! Maybe you're autigender (where gender is entwined with autistic traits) or agender (no gender at all.) There are many options and yes, non-binary is more than one thing. Genderfluidity is a form of it as well, for example. Gender can be a bit like a playground. Just see what clicks with you.
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Is there a form of being gender-questioning where you don't identify with much of being male (and many labs and health conditions lean me towards female biology), but I don't feel feminine either, and know I would not pass if I did embrace that?
I don't think I'm describing non-binary. It's like there is a third choice without all that follows identifying as non-binary. Or just maybe what I am identifying with *is* non-binary, and "if you met one non-binary person, you met one non-binary person" to reuse a neurodivergence phrase.
I do know I identify as gay/queer, regardless how the above shakes out.
@AncTreat5358 If it helps, I am trans femme genderfluid enby (non-binary).
But ... none of that is prescriptive, all those terms are descriptive, meaning that they describe best how I feel.
Sexuality-wise I am omni, but romantically I am lesbian, trixic (enby attracted to women), and enbian (enby attracted to other enbies).
Being genderfluid means that my gender can change depending on various parameters (situation, weather, partner, emotions, ...), thus I have defined a 'gender-at-rest', which is something neither male nor female, but also not a mix of both, it is somewhere outside.
Still, when you check out my selfies you'd assume I am a woman and I mostly, but not always, dress femme.
Passing has nothing to do with what you feel; I purposefully avoid "passing", by e.g. not changing my voice, and I have a very prominent Adam's Apple.
So, feel free to explore and don't let yourself restricted by words - assign meaning to words as you want and as they fit you best - as I said, they are descriptive, not prescriptive (and anyone who says otherwise should just shut up).
Also, we are all here if you need help or look for more questions/answers.
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@AncTreat5358@mindly.social There is agender, genderqueer, androgyne, and a variety of other gender names you can explore - see the non-binary wiki. It’s important to remember that these names/categories exist to try to communicate our internal experience of gender - they should not be prescriptive. Language is simply the best means we have to try to communicate personal experiences, and your identity should not be limited by it.
@Steve Thanks for your post and in sharing this wiki page.
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@AncTreat5358 I feel similar and call myself genderqueer, because it feels like non-binary doesn't quite fit. You can try out different names, see if they fit! Maybe you're autigender (where gender is entwined with autistic traits) or agender (no gender at all.) There are many options and yes, non-binary is more than one thing. Genderfluidity is a form of it as well, for example. Gender can be a bit like a playground. Just see what clicks with you.
@mees This sounds delightful in a pick-what-fits-you spectrum! Thanks for sharing about you, Mees.
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@AncTreat5358 If it helps, I am trans femme genderfluid enby (non-binary).
But ... none of that is prescriptive, all those terms are descriptive, meaning that they describe best how I feel.
Sexuality-wise I am omni, but romantically I am lesbian, trixic (enby attracted to women), and enbian (enby attracted to other enbies).
Being genderfluid means that my gender can change depending on various parameters (situation, weather, partner, emotions, ...), thus I have defined a 'gender-at-rest', which is something neither male nor female, but also not a mix of both, it is somewhere outside.
Still, when you check out my selfies you'd assume I am a woman and I mostly, but not always, dress femme.
Passing has nothing to do with what you feel; I purposefully avoid "passing", by e.g. not changing my voice, and I have a very prominent Adam's Apple.
So, feel free to explore and don't let yourself restricted by words - assign meaning to words as you want and as they fit you best - as I said, they are descriptive, not prescriptive (and anyone who says otherwise should just shut up).
Also, we are all here if you need help or look for more questions/answers.
@ics Thanks for sharing your very relatable story and great details to ponder.
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